Deciding to get divorced can feel overwhelming, and it often takes couples a long time to accept that their marriage is not working. At a mediation workshop I recently attended, a therapist who works with divorcing couples said that uncoupling often leads to panic, and feelings of abandonment. As divorce mediators, at Westfield Mediation, LLC, awe help divorcing couples create a plan for their future which, in turn, helps them to address that emotional upheaval and reach a place of resolution.
The divorce mediation process can provide a means of going from uncertainty and worry to calm agreement and acceptance. During mediation, we find out what each spouse wants out of the agreement and what would work well for their children. We consider each family dynamic and the couple's financial resources. We take a practical and methodical approach, and carefully consider how the future will play out. Through this process, we can craft individualized agreements that are specific to each family.
In our experience, working through each of the parenting and financial issues helps divorcing couples see areas of compromise. As a result, our process takes away some of the panic. We have worked with clients who come in confused and worried, wondering how they will ever make through the process and share parenting or make ends meet. By the end of mediation, they emerge confident and reassured, with a plan in hand. Going through divorce mediation often makes the future seem more manageable and less overwhelming.