Divorce Mediation sounds like a great alternative to litigation, but is it for everyone? We often talk about the advantages of going through divorce mediation, rather than expensive, time-consuming litigation. Mediation which involves both husband and wife working out an agreement with one neutral, impartial mediator saves time and money. It is also better for the family relationship because it gives couples a chance to work together to create a plan that works for their particular family. But does it work for everyone? Can it work for you?
In Divorce Mediation, the mediator guides a couple to an agreement on parenting, child support, division of assets and debts, and alimony. It works best for couples who recognize that their divorce is going to happen, so they might as well make it as painless – financially and emotionally -- as possible. In these situations, couples realize that rehashing old arguments, or disagreeing just for the heck of it, doesn't really get anyone anywhere.
However, sometimes, couples have established bad patterns of interacting with each other and agreement is the furthest thing from their minds. A history of fighting can make it hard for some people to reach the point where they want to work together on anything. And yet, these couples can still go through mediation instead of litigation. In these cases, the mediator can help balance the playing field so that a dominating party doesn't take over. She can also focus the couple on their future plans while redirecting them away from past. As long as couples are willing to take that extra step to see beyond their past into their future, they can save time, money and their relationship by using divorce mediation.