Author Archives: Lois Misiewicz

Mourning Your Marriage

I read a press release this morning titled “Dating Websites Providing More Divorce Evidence Says Survey: Nation’s Top Matrimonial Lawyers Cite Match.com as Most Common Source” from the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML). It stated “If you are married, … Continue reading

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Child Support

What exactly is child support? Child support is the financial contribution from the non-custodial parent to the custodial parent towards the expenses of raising the child. Every child is entitled to be supported by both parents until they reach the … Continue reading

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Divorce Court Room Tips

There is no easy part of getting divorced, especially if there is litigation involved. Unfortunately for me my divorce was very litigious. Few things gave me the feeling of dread more than walking into the courtroom… and the first time was the worst!

Here are a few tips that may help take away some of the anxiety of going to court. It also never hurts to make a good impression on the judge and these guidelines make that much easier.

  • Don’t be late. This seems pretty obvious, but seriously, arrive on time. It’s all about respect.
  • Leave your attitude at home. Do not make faces or gestures when the judge or your spouse’s attorney is speaking. Judges see this and do not appreciate it.
  • Dress appropriately. I’m sure you’ve heard the expression “You can’t judge a book by its cover”. Unfortunately some judges just might. Why take the chance. Men should wear slacks, a jacket and a tie. Women should wear a skirt or dress slacks and a modest blouse. There is no place in the court room for jeans, shorts, revealing clothes or flip flops. If you aren’t sure how to dress consult your attorney on how he/she wants you to dress.
  • If you have an attorney do not speak unless asked to do so by the Judge.
  • “Your Honor” is the appropriate way to address the Judge.
  • Always thank the Judge when you are finished speaking. Again, it’s all about respect.
  • Only speak when you are spoken to. Never speak to or make comments to your opposition when you are before the Judge. If you need to communicate with your divorce attorney write it on a notepad.

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Certified Divorce Financial Planner

Divorce affects every aspect of your life, your emotions, your legal standing and your finances.  Most people wouldn’t think of getting divorced without hiring an attorney, and rightly so.  A qualified attorney that specializes in divorce and family law will … Continue reading

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Mother’s Day is coming…don’t let it get you down

With Mother’s Day quickly approaching I think back to when my daughter was young and I can’t help but smile.   You see even when my ex and I were together he couldn’t be bothered with Mother’s Day so my expectations … Continue reading

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Limited Scope Representation in Divorce

Limited scope representation (LSR) also known as “unbundled representation” and “limited scope assistance” is when the client and attorney select specific services to be provided rather than the “full package” of services that are traditionally offered by law firms. It’s … Continue reading

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Question of the Day:
How is divorce mediation different than litigation?

How is divorce mediation different than litigation? When parties resolve their disputes by litigation, their contacts are generally indirect — through attorneys and the rules of the court system. Because of this, litigation is an inefficient way to resolve disputes. … Continue reading

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When you win you often lose in divorce

I was reading “Cutting for Stone” by Abraham Verghese when I came across this text…. “When you win, you often lose, that’s just a fact” and I couldn’t help but think how true that is when it comes to divorce! … Continue reading

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Who would’ve ever thought?

If anybody would have told me back in 1995 that I would be part owner of a successful divorce information web site, blogging about divorce I would have told them they were crazy. But here I am! So welcome to … Continue reading

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