Coping with Divorce

copingI was recently invited to collaborate on an expert panel and share some insights on how cope with divorce. Here are my best tips:

When in the throes of a divorce or separation, the big question is often, “How am I going to get through this?” Three words come to mind: Time. Attitude. And Support.

Oh, that dreaded four letter word – TIME. Divorce is a process and it’s going to take time. I saw a quote on Pinterest that said, “Progress: you might not be where you want to be but you’re not where you used to be.”

Give yourself time to grieve and grow. Don’t rush the process.

Also, having the right attitude is important. I remember when I was going through my own divorce reading this quote by motivational speaker Brian Tracy – “Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.”

Starting to appreciate what I had and not thinking about what I lost made all the difference for me.

Finally, a good support network will work wonders. Family and friends will want to be there for you and you will lean on them but after a while that may start to put a strain on those relationships.

There are many divorce support groups available that can help you cope.

They offer an opportunity to make new friends and socialize with people who understand what you’re going through. A word of advice about support groups: they each have their own dynamic so if you don’t fit in the first group you find, look for another one. Nobody says getting divorced is easy, but if you give yourself the time, have the right attitude and get good support, the transition into your new life can be much smoother than you think.

You can read the full article here: How to Cope with Divorce

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