Probably one of the hardest things a divorcing couple will have to do is tell the children. When parents decide to divorce it is only fair to be honest with the children. Depending on the family dynamics and the ages of the children some may already be well aware that there are problems, while others may not have a clue about what is going on.
Ideally it is best to gather together as a family to tell the children of an impending divorce or separation. There are a few reasons for doing it this way. First it presents a united front. It shows the children that even though you are getting divorced you still both love them and are united in your responsibility to them. It also allows an opportunity for the children to ask questions and get answers from both parents.
Even in the best of situations divorce is not easy, but if handled correctly parents can make the transition less stressful for the children and therefore themselves.
More information on Telling the Children
A great tool for younger children is the Sesame Workshop Little Children, Big Challenges: Divorce tool.
According to their website “Divorce is one of the most common major transitions in children’s lives, with 40 percent of all children experiencing the divorce of their parents. With Little Children, Big Challenges: Divorce, Sesame Street has created much-needed resources for families with young children ( ages 2 to 8 ) as they encounter the tough transitions that come with divorce.”
This tool is the collaboration of a national group of clinical psychologists and educators