What is the best way to share parenting when you are getting divorced? At Westfield Mediation, LLC, we work with divorcing parents to make a future-oriented parenting arrangement that works well for the children while considering the parents' interests too. The parenting arrangement can take many forms depending on the family.
An article in the January 17, 2016 issue of the New York Times highlights divorced couples with children who live either in the same apartment building or brownstone, or just blocks away from each other. The featured stories focus on how the kids are able to go from one parent's home to another easily, while maintaining their school and social routines. The parents also seem able to move forward with their own personal and professional lives while preserving a relationship with their ex-spouse that allows them to work together. Some of the parents mentioned working with a mediator or therapist to create their plan.
For me, the most noticeable feature in these arrangements is how both parents' focused primarily on the needs of their children in making a workable parenting plan. Not every divorced family can live close together, either because of financial or emotional issues. Nonetheless, most divorcing couples have the option of working together with a divorce mediator to create a plan that benefits their children while allowing them to move forward. The key is to make the children's well-being the paramount focus of your plan.