Is the divorce rate really 50%? How many of your friends and family are divorced? Is it every other marriage? Not for me. In my children's class at school, half the class is not from a divorced family. On my block no one is divorced. So how come we keep hearing that one in two marriages end in divorce. Statistics can be misleading. It is not 50% of first marriages, but 50% of all marriages. And since you are more likely to get divorced if you have been divorced, it is the people who have been divorced multiple times that are driving up the average to 50%.
According to the website http://www.divorcerate.org/, the divorce rate in America for first marriages is 41%, second marriages is 60% and third marriages is 73%. However, it also depends on where you live. New York and New Jersey happen to have one of the lowest divorce rates in the country. One reason is believed to be that it is too expensive to get divorced in these areas and have two separate households. ble to mediate your divorce because of potential conflicts of interest. So you would need to find a divorce mediator to help you create an agreement.
This is not a statistic you plan on becoming a part of on your wedding day. However, statistically most likely either you or someone you know is heading for divorce at some point. So, if you are going to be part of the 41%, or 60% or 73%, one way to keep costs down and be able to better afford a divorce, is to use a divorce mediator. A divorce mediator meets with the couple together to work out all the issues of the divorce; parenting plan, child support, budgets, division of assets and debts, etc., to better help you afford two separate households. Mediation promotes a better post-divorce relationship for you and your ex-spouse and you with your children. Also, people are more likely to follow the divorce agreement because they created it, as opposed to having it imposed on you by a judge. So, there is less returning to court for post-divorce motions. While no one expects themselves to be a statistic, it is better to be informed and prepared just in case.