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The Tax Implications of Divorce in Arizona an article by By Timothy Durkin, Attorney at Law Divorce, also known in Arizona as the dissolution of marriage, is the official termination of your marriage in the eyes of the state. Although … Continue reading
Divorce for One, Please
Westfield Mediation, LLC
What if only one half of the couple wants to get divorced?
As divorce mediators, we often hear this question. Generally, both people know that their marriage is rocky. But often, only one spouse feels ready to end it. The reasons vary – maybe one person is more willing to deal with conflict than the other, or one person feels more ready to start fresh. Sometimes, it just takes one person longer than the other to accept that it is not working out. Still, as we tell our divorce mediation clients, if one spouse wants a divorce, it will usually happen. It may just take longer and be more complicated than if both parties agree.
Legally, the divorce process begins when one spouse files a divorce complaint in court. And even if the other party never responds, the divorce can still go forward. This kind of “divorce by default” is doable, but it’s not in either party’s best interest because the agreement doesn’t include the kind of compromises that ensure that both people will follow through. It also involves expensive, time-consuming litigation.
I was cleaning up some old files this morning and came across the monthly newsletter we published back in January 2002. In it I had written about the story of two friends walking through the dessert. This story still resonates … Continue reading
The Child Support Enforcement Program is a partnership between the Federal, state and local governments. It is part of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. The program is authorized and defined by statute,Title IV-D of the Social Security … Continue reading
Thoughts for today…… “Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.” ~ Anonymous “I was never one to patiently pick up broken fragments and glue them together again … Continue reading
It’s about to happen again – a family milestone. This time it’s the birth a grandchild. This should be one of the most joyous experiences. Notice the emphasis on the word “should”? Unfortunately the reality is that the grandparents are … Continue reading
I read a press release this morning titled “Dating Websites Providing More Divorce Evidence Says Survey: Nation’s Top Matrimonial Lawyers Cite Match.com as Most Common Source” from the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML). It stated “If you are married, … Continue reading
There is no easy part of getting divorced, especially if there is litigation involved. Unfortunately for me my divorce was very litigious. Few things gave me the feeling of dread more than walking into the courtroom… and the first time was the worst!
- Don’t be late. This seems pretty obvious, but seriously, arrive on time. It’s all about respect.
- Leave your attitude at home. Do not make faces or gestures when the judge or your spouse’s attorney is speaking. Judges see this and do not appreciate it.
- Dress appropriately. I’m sure you’ve heard the expression “You can’t judge a book by its cover”. Unfortunately some judges just might. Why take the chance. Men should wear slacks, a jacket and a tie. Women should wear a skirt or dress slacks and a modest blouse. There is no place in the court room for jeans, shorts, revealing clothes or flip flops. If you aren’t sure how to dress consult your attorney on how he/she wants you to dress.
- If you have an attorney do not speak unless asked to do so by the Judge.
- “Your Honor” is the appropriate way to address the Judge.
- Always thank the Judge when you are finished speaking. Again, it’s all about respect.
- Only speak when you are spoken to. Never speak to or make comments to your opposition when you are before the Judge. If you need to communicate with your divorce attorney write it on a notepad.
For more helpful courtroom tips visit Divorce Court Room Tips
Divorce affects every aspect of your life, your emotions, your legal standing and your finances. Most people wouldn’t think of getting divorced without hiring an attorney, and rightly so. A qualified attorney that specializes in divorce and family law will … Continue reading