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How Do RI Courts Handle Significant Others and Visitation During Divorce

Don P. Moyer, Esquire

Here is the situation: You have been separated from your spouse for two years, and have just filed for divorce and your first hearing for child support is a week away. You are living with the love of your life (not your spouse). Your children live with you and are happy. All seems fine. What could go wrong?

Everything. Maybe.

In Rhode Island, most judges, if asked to make a ruling on the issue, will not allow a significant other to be in the presence of minor children during the divorce, never mind overnight, and forget about living together.

The key is: "if asked." Most judges will only rule on a particular issue if a party asks them to. Some judges, though, will issue an order dealing with this issue on their own, or "sua-sponte," if they find out that there is a significant other around the children.

So, for most circumstances, if the judge finds out, and if a party asks the judge to rule on the issue, you will generally get hit with the following order: "Each party is restrained and enjoined from allowing the minor children to be in the presence of their significant other [or any unrelated members of the opposite sex] at any time." If you violate the order, there could be significant penalties, such as payment of attorney's fees to the other side, loss of your children, or jail time.

If you are in the circumstance described at the beginning of this article, your life could be turned upside down.

There are a lot of ifs here. Some judges are more lenient, and some are incredibly strict. I have heard the following: "Your boyfriend must move out, and there cannot be so much as a shoe of his in the apartment, or you will be having visitation supervised at the Family Court building."

After the divorce, the courts tend not to have a problem with significant others being around children, but many will still prevent overnights around them. In a sense, people who have at one time been married have a greater level of restriction on them regarding this issue, as parties who were never married often do not have the same restrictions placed on them.

So, what should you get out of this? Know what you are in for before you go in front of a judge, regardless of which side of the issue you are on. If you are the non-possessory parent, you may have a tremendous amount of leverage to be used (or abused) as needed (think of blackmail.) On the other hand, you could be exposes to a tremendous amount of risk if you are the possessory parent.

Ensure when choosing an RI divorce lawyer for your divorce that he or she knows the tendencies of each judge in the county that your case is to be heard. Does the lawyer knows which judge will hear the case? Find out what to expect on this issue. In essence, make sure you and your attorney are not blindsided.

Don P. Moyer, Esquire is a Warwick, Rhode Island attorney whose firm diligently and aggressively works for your future everyday. Their practice focuses on divorce, custody, adoption, support, interstate child issues, juvenile, DCYF, military issues, restraining orders, or any family court matter.

Don P. Moyer, Esquire can be contacted by phone at (401) 461-7800 or
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