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How to Successfully Complete Your High Conflict Divorce: Mediation

By Cheryl Dillon, Divorce Coach & Co-Mediator

Are you a high conflict couple and don't think you can mediate? Think again...

If you've done your homework and researched the various options for getting a divorce, you probably learned that mediation is the most peaceful, cost-effective and efficient way to go.

But what if you and your spouse are fighting constantly and you can't imagine getting through a conversation together, much less a divorce mediation session?

Many people think they have no choice and resort to hiring lawyers.

But you don't have to. You can mediate.

It is possible to mediate your high conflict divorce even if you can't imagine how you will agree on any of the terms of your divorce.

Litigation is Not the Way to Retaliate

It's completely normal to experience conflict during divorce.

But if you let anger get the best of you, you'll end up hurting yourself (and your children) the most.

The anger that comes from extreme conflict in divorce proceedings causes more damage financially and emotionally if it fuels a long and expensive legal battle. Litigation will easily cost at least $100,000, often much more. The only people standing to gain financially in a high conflict divorce are the lawyers.

And the emotional toll litigation takes on everyone involved, can never be repaired.

During what is typically a two to three year process, using lawyers to argue a high conflict case is like throwing gasoline on a fire. It is not a direction anyone should ever want to consider, no matter how much they don't get along with their spouse.

If you're smart to know it will be a big mistake to use the divorce process to deal with high-conflict, mediate with us instead.

How Can We Mediate if We Can't Even Communicate?

Some people think divorce is all about the law.

And this makes sense because the divorce process legally dissolves the union of marriage.

Other people think divorce is all about money. After all, three of the four main topics addressed in divorce are related to financial matters: child support, spousal support or maintenance and equitable distribution of marital assets and liabilities.

But while there is no doubt that the divorce process itself focuses on the legal and financial aspects of divorce, there are also emotional aspects that are equally, if not more important.

And the ones that get high conflict couples in the most trouble.

You need help effectively dealing with your anger and the emotional aspects of your divorce.

At Equitable Mediation, we know that divorce has three important components: legal, financial and emotional.

That's why divorce coaching is included with all of our mediation services.

You and your spouse will each acquire the necessary skills and get the emotional support so desperately needed but often overlooked in a high-conflict divorce.

In turn, you'll gain the clarity and perspective necessary to mediate the legal and financial issues of your divorce and successfully complete the mediation process.

Don't let high conflict and your emotions get the best of you and go financially and emotionally bankrupt in the divorce process.

Before you take a drastic step and get an attorney, consider mediating your divorce. If you do, you'll save the time, money, and the emotional stress of a litigated divorce, and you'll have everything you'll need to get through your divorce as peacefully and cost-effectively as possible.


Equitable Mediation specializes in helping divorcing couples negotiate a fair settlement and divorce peacefully and cost-effectively – without lawyers.

For more than 20 years, Equitable Mediation Founder and Divorce Mediator Joe Dillon has been helping individuals, couples and corporations mediate a myriad of complex issues and intractable problems by utilizing his expertise in negotiation, finance and interpersonal relationships.

For more than 20 years, Co-Founder, Divorce Coach and Co-mediator Cheryl Dillon has been employing her background in psychology, human resources and life coaching to help individuals overcome obstacles to achieve their goals and reach their fullest potential.

Joe and Cheryl are passionate about helping couples avoid the destruction of attorney-driven litigation and know first-hand that the right information, combined with the right expertise and the right kind of support can make the challenging process of divorce less expensive, less time-consuming and less stressful for divorcing couples and their children.

Equitable Mediation serves clients in New Jersey, Illinois, Pennsylvania, Colorado, New York and California.

Joe and Cheryl can be contacted by phone at: (877) 732-6682 Visit Web Site Visit Blog

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